Monthly Archives: October 2012

Mobile Minutes: Vegas


I guess it was only a matter of time before it happened. I was going to eventually find myself in Las Vegas.

That timing took place about twenty minutes ago. After several months of no response; the league that the Kansas City Shock is part of; the Women’s Premier Soccer League, contacted our crew and informed us of when the Annual General Meeting will be held for the 2013 season. This is a required meeting as outlined in the agreement that I signed with the league.

The meeting is held in the last weekend in Las Vegas, Nevada. This is the Saturday after the NSCAA convention in Indianapolis, Indiana [for those geographically challenged: they're on opposite sides of the US].

Initial Thought: WOW! I’m expected to a be a professional at actual meetings that include our program.

Realistic Thought: How on earth am I going to get this all figured out? Registration fee for the NSCAA is $268 [ish], and airfare for one person for a round trip from KCI to Vegas and back is around $300. Thankfully I’ll be working with my good friends in Nevada to be sure that I get the best deal. Also, I’ll be taking Darco with me, as she is the adviser that keeps me from losing my mind.

God’s brought me this far…I know He isn’t done, not even close.

-D-


Mobile Minutes: 15…what?


I just took a quick peek at the numbers of the growing views at FilingThePapers…

We’re three views away from 15,000.

Seriously.

I mean…is anyone else out there nearly as amazed as I am at this number?

Thank you all! The messages, thoughts, reactions, comments, and opinions have truly turned this former outlet of hope and strength into something bigger then I would have ever imagined.

Here’s to the next 15,000…

-D-


#getyourpraiseon


Recall back to one of my goals of losing weight. In January for 2011 I weighed an alarming 275 pounds. Rather insane.
The weight had to go.
Via working out, diet changes, and a divorce; a year later I was able to state that I was down to 225.

Incredible…”study’s” suggest that my ideal body weight is around 215.

I didn’t think much about, until today. After my girlfriend and I finished our stellar workout we went to the scale for curiousity. Because of a sweat soaked hoodie, shoes, and other clothes the number was going to be exact regardless.

I stepped up…

…with all the gear and after the workout the scale rang in right around 224…

…that was with all the clothing and shoes…

I am amazed.

-D-


Mobile Minutes: Lonely


I know you’ve been lonely…you poor, poor reader…

Just to hold you over; I’m going to leak something specific to you that no one else in the entire world has seen [seriously]. Some of you will find this fascinating, others will not care, but I’m pleased to be able to show what the quietness has led to:

Check out the Kansas City Shock 2013 Budget/Sponsorship Package [yes, you have to click on the link below].

Kansas City Shock 2013 Budget/Sponsorship Package

-D-


Mobile Minutes: Unwinding Drive


On the road…again…
I’m heading up north to go check out a college match. Granted I’m not recruiting because that isn’t my job.
I’m going because…
…well…I don’t know.
For as much structure as I enjoy my life to have, I just can’t rationalize at the moment.
Talk to a coach?
A player?
I don’t know.
Some days I literally have no idea what’s even going on…


O: Marathon Training


Today marks the Kansas City Marathon, being in Kansas City, Missouri.

I am proud to say that I am not in training for this event.

For some reason, no matter how much I comprehend the notion of 26.2 miles, I frankly have no desire to partake in such event. There just isn’t the motivation, drive, or anything to do something that reflects the traditions of the Greeks [did anyone mention the fact that the first marathon runner died after finishing...].

I mean, kudos to those who are already preparing to trek through downtown Kansas City, through the Plaza, and all other beautiful areas of the City of Fountains.

I’ll train for my own marathons.

While it’s a fact that running numbers like that would surely kill me [I once did a 10k a few months ago...that was enough for me], I do see the context of a marathon being something worth training for. I’ll never run one, but in the same, the preparation that goes into a marathon could be reflective towards the simple aspect of how one conducts their own life.

Preparation, anticipation, and commitment; from what I understand, is the needed elements [aside from some serious pipes as well] in order to conquer this insanity that’s referred to as the marathon.

Flip that on your own life, your own dreams, aspirations and think to yourself, “Does it apply to me as well?”

Let’s take a gander at my own example:

  • Preparation: In 2013, Kansas City will be launching its first premier women’s soccer program in its soccer loved history. In order to achieve this a staff has been formed, press releases issued, interviews set up, budgets conquered, and sponsorship packages finalized. Meetings with programs, looking at home fields. Finding players, hiring coaches, all the way down to merchandising lineups and jersey designs.
  • Anticipation: History suggests that I should anticipate limited success with this program. Anticipate a loss of capital in the first year, struggle with a fan base, and run a season record around .750 with a shot at the playoffs, only to trip up in the end. However, for a person to anticipate; they must anticipate what their success will be versus what history tells us it should be. I expect sold out stadiums, crazy ticket sales, insane games, a national title, and fighting with other programs who will try to steal our coaching staff…because we’re that good. This isn’t arrogance, this is daring to be different, not fearing dreams, and doing what it takes [note preparation] in order to succeed.
  • Commitment: Sacrifice tends to be a term synonymous with the thought of commitment. In order to commit, we have to be willing to sacrifice. In other words: count the cost. My girlfriend and I sit around nightly, looking at budget expectations, noting where shortfalls could take place, and reminding ourselves that we, along with the rest of the stellar staff of the Kansas City Shock, are committed to excellence. We’re committed as much to our shortfalls as we are to our success. We realize that our success, many times, is dictated around our level of commitment. Are you in it to win it, or to just move along with life?

As you start your weekend, enjoy the quiet moments, a chance to breathe, but regardless of age; don’t lose track of those dreams, whether it be that marathon, that business, or just that perfect latte [everyone has their thing].

-D-


Mobile Minutes: Painting Pictures


My girlfriend and I had the day together [mostly], and by the night we found ourselves freezing [again] at a local women’s soccer game.

Today was a struggle, several times I found myself at a boiling point, and my girlfriend and I were just not…gracious with one another [I'll let you read in between the lines].

It finally hit a boiling point with the slamming of the car door this evening after stopping at Walmart for some pizza. It was a conversation about health, that like many other topics today, just immediately spiraled out of control into controversy, frustration, but thankfully no yelling.

I share this to again highlight that perfection is desirable, but not obtainable; especially in a relationship. Several times today I had to reflect back to my past, failed marriage and make changes at a moments notice today that I would not have done two years ago. It took patience, grace, and something else that I wasn’t sure what to make of.

Thankfully, after talking for hours tonight on the floor of my apartment, we parted ways with a hug, well wishes, and warm hearts.

How I’ve forgotten the never-ending strength of loving souls.

It’s frequently interesting to see a reoccurring pattern that has taken place in my life: people doing dramatic things to literally start over. They paint the picture of what their life is to be, what they dream it to be, and what they pray to God to show them it’ll be, and then suddenly; they go out and just do it.

No strings attached.

This website started off the whim of unknowingly knowing what I was getting ready to do next. Would anyone believe the kid that posted this ended up starting this?

Our stories all have a starting point, but more importantly they all have a climaxes as well. My girlfriend is starting to get to this point. The realization, as noted here earlier this week, is that times are changing for us. A new door is quickly [and I mean rapidly] opening up and we’re going to have to make a fast choice on the next chapter of life. Looking at the soccer perspective, living in Kansas City is very ideal for both of us. However, removing ourselves from the city we currently live in, that’s a solid adjustment for me; who just settled down, but more important; it’s life changing for my girlfriend who only knows this city as her life.

Painting a picture of what our lives could be, what we desire them to be, what we believe God wants them to be, some days is the only thing that keeps us moving. My girlfriend and I are constantly crunching numbers, looking at ledgers, and just trying to imagine, “When does this end?” in reaction towards bills.

It doesn’t, but it can become easier. The bills that is. In recent days the staff at Weber Creative Arts and the Kansas City Shock have finalized the designs for our sponsorship packages. It’s chilling to realize that it is real, but literally within the past few days I’ve scheduled three new meetings in the next week [not to mention breakfast with my dad...another post for later], just to talk to potential investors, and programs that we’re looking to partner up with. It’s a challenge, it isn’t easy, but together [thankfully] my girlfriend look at this blank slate, this moment to start over, and through our struggles we’re trying to stop thinking, “Remember when?”, and we’re trying to ask, “What’s next?”

God is good. When the night is over and the day is done, I’m so, so blessed to be able to look at my girlfriend and say, “God is good”. God didn’t put me in a cubicle, He didn’t allow me to wander into a classroom, He’s designed a unique life from the very beginning that can just be a bit different, and can shock just a few people.

What’s the picture your painting? What are you settling for? What are you dreaming about? How are you going to reach that dream?

If you’re not asking these questions every day you wake up, now is a great time to start.

-D-


O: Simulated Reality


There is well known fact that I have a deep, dark passion for a specific video game. This game has plagued me since around 1995 and I’ve grown with it over the years. It’s gone from 2-D, to 3-D, to actually making sense. It’s realistic, but also a simulation; it is…

…SimCity.

Literally, from the moment that Windows 3.1 was introduced into my life in elementary school, I’ve had a strong fixation on this game. There’s no point, there’s no last level, there’s no orc’s; the concept is clear: build.

It’s a developers utopia. From the original, limited, but nostalgic Simcity to my personal favorite; Simcity 4 [in which you could create and program your own buildings]. It was a nerds paradise; a paradise that I didn’t end…ever.

To this day, on my trusty, old laptop; Simcity 4 is still loaded. Why? There isn’t much else more relaxing then looking at something created and modifying, adjusting, increasing, decreasing, and just relaxing as you escape from your world into another.

Or was there something more?

From what you’ve read above, it’s been a geek-fest of a males take on a video game. However, the concept behind it really stuck with me over the years. It wasn’t about the tornado, UFO, or some other random disaster [including Car-Zilla?]; it was about going behind and above and building the impossible.

Yes, I even used SC4 as a failed diagram about zoning regulations in my philosophy of politics course in college. The belief behind development just amazed me. I went ahead, in school, and pushed the envelop on State and Local Government, I followed Department’s of Transportation, my wallpaper as a child? State maps from around the United States. Going on vacation wasn’t about the destination, it was about traveling from A to B and where and how we’d travel [I'm already freaking about driving to Indianapolis in January]. I thoroughly enjoy the Shock because I’m getting develop something out of nothing in a place that I’ve watched grow through the years; Kansas City.

However, it turns out that Simcity, Shock, teaching degrees in social sciences; emphasizing geography, and others were it for me.

Through my rather random Twitter feed; I follow groups like the international airport just south of where I live, or the state’s DOT, I talk to the social media specialist of MODOT almost daily [even when I don't get lost]. I took what I loved in a digital world and placed it into reality. It’s evident with Subway, what do I do? Develop. I chart out growth patterns in neighborhoods and towns, I keep up to date with transportation adjustments, and I’m always looking for the next ‘hot spot’, bu  I never considered an actual public figure position that involved development until about a week ago. Right before my girlfriend started to learn about her opportunity to relocate to Kansas City, I was inquired by the social media lead at the chamber of commerce of the city I currently reside in. Inquiring on if I’d apply to become a member of the city’s Chamber of Commerce.

…yes…read that again…

I’m still sitting here, haven’t replied back to the thought, but naturally in this mind; the concepts are endless. I mean, check out this one idea I’ve had in my head:

In the current city I’m residing in the downtown looks…well, awful. Old buildings, no development, just a lack-luster attempt at survival; let alone growth. Watching the downtown of Kansas City become what it has over the years versus what I have here has been a challenge. So, I’m taking what little I know, what I constantly think I know, and I’ve created a way to bring some new, fresh life into this dull, old city.

Downtown, near a major interchange of two highways stands an abandoned, privately owned rail yard. The sidewalks are destroyed by weeds, half the fences have been knocked down/rusted apart, and there isn’t life anywhere around. Again, the rail yard isn’t used; it’s been abandoned for years; I remember when it went vacant.

So why not change that? This city has several running/biking trails throughout the city, and their growing [slowly, but surely]. However, there is no trail head in the city. Due to this, and vast acreage of the rail yard; the city can turn around and knock the yard as ‘blighted’ and take the action of eminent domain and take the yard. Additionally, through an actual useful TIF, since this area is specifically what TIF’s were designed for in the first place. Not to be used painfully such as it was in the Kelo vs New London case [think I didn't listen in class?].

With a TIF in place, we can start a two-fold plan for redevelopment in the area:

  • First, this mass amount of space can become a park/trail head for all the massive trails that stretch for several miles throughout the city. This would include a plan for a potential riverfront trail to run directly off of this park area, north into the softball/baseball complex/casino several miles to the north [the city sits directly on the Missouri River].
  • Secondly, in order to bring about actual growth and not just to spruce up the area; a calculated, commercial development would also be cornerstones within this park area. Businesses such as an Apple Store and Trader Joe’s, two businesses envied by the upcoming business minded generations of the area, would snap the city out of the fast food controlled, factory foregone past. Additionally, not only will the properly value continue to increase in the area [trust me, it can't get any lower, minus nuclear waste being spilled], but it will begin a decent to the north and take a two-three block wide area and build up new commercial entities. Being able to actually rebuild a downtown means that cornerstone businesses could take bake a blighted downtown area.
  • Finally, we take out the notes that Johnson and Wyandotte Counties in Kansas have learned in the last decade; when done calmly and carefully, tax breaks for businesses, regardless the condition of the land, can bring about additional interest to the region. The fact that this downtown area does sit on an interstate with ease of access to Omaha, Nebraska and Kansas City, Mo/Ks is also a lucrative pull for the sake of transportation.

All of this is so, so theoretical that it really isn’t funny, and with the government of this city being run still by the “good boys gun club”, it is doubtful that progress would take place immediately.

However, who knows what the next week, month, or year holds?

Regardless, I find it amazing that video games and a strange, geeky childhood passion can stay alive so long to the point to where I’m looking at actual movement inside the political machine.

1.4 years since my life got turned upside down…

…I think we’ll count this as progress.

-D-


O: Delegating Drive


It’s just before 11:00 PM and I have a few minutes to throw on some music, and just get some thoughts on the computer.

Today, similar to the past two weeks, has been everything all but short of insane.

Subway during the day, soccer at night. Meetings tonight, talking to new members of our program, scheduling meeting with not-for-profit organizational presidents, still killed the tablet; life is just moving 100 mph, the amazing crew at the Kansas City Shock knew it.

Last night, as I sat at my parents house with MC watching the USA vs Guatemala match, completely removed from the rest of society; my phone continued to go off with texts. We’re not talking like three or four, but more like ten at a time…multiple times. It was my general manager, Bryan, who was sending these monsters to me. I’m assuming he found himself over here where I was talking about just being exhausted, and he stated, very bluntly; that I wasn’t delegating like I should be.

He was absolutely right.

The trigger behind that had nothing to do with the staff or the program itself, it had everything to do with my pride. I’ve spent so long listening to people speak of this ‘hobby’, idea, and passion and basically treat the Kansas City Shock like a little kids lemonade stand.

Let me clue the skeptics in on something; players don’t travel from Australia to the United States for a glass of lemonade.

Because of my arrogance and pride [that's a confession] I struggled with trying to do everything myself because had to prove to the doubters that could get the job done and would be the victorious one  in the end.

Anyone else see how fast pride can just crush an individual?

Tonight, while at our bi-weekly staff meeting, the rest of the team voiced the similar concern [in its roundabout way among the burritos, beer, and Pepsi with Lime at our local eatery].

Because of all of this, myself along with the rest of the staff, now have homework due on Saturday. Who would have thought I’d be so fortunate to revisit this task of my childhood?

The homework is simple; just to outline what your job is with the company; the company being Kansas City Shock, L.L.C. It’s for all people associated with the brand, from the owner to the coaches to the staff in between. The true purpose to is to make sure that there are no gaps of responsibility and delegation.

More so for myself, it’s a reminder of my responsibility. In order for the Kansas City Shock to work, it must become less about me, and more about the program, the goal, the future, the legacy.

However, like any good post-grad individual; I shall not learn from the childhood lessons of schoolwork…

I’ll work on the assignment tomorrow…

-D-


O: Winds of Change


I find it fascinating that just over a year ago, I received news that would send me and my bags packing back home and taking over a new job in the area. Eventually, I finally moved out of my parents house; moved north, settled down, and started a new business [not exactly in that order], but needless to say it was adventurous and kind of chaotic, but if you missed it; for the most part I absolutely love it.

Well, life has seemed to have calmed down a bit in recent weeks, not completely content with that notion, but not upset either. However, that comfort could have only meant one thing…

Change was coming.

The Kansas City Shock is a changing, evolving mess in itself, but this time; the change isn’t stemmed from soccer, but from relationships.

My girlfriend is looking at a potential shift in jobs; as in moving up in her company. Trust me, that’s a big deal in the line of work she is in.

However, if that were to take place; she would be required to move to…*drum roll*…the Kansas City area, in possibly less then a year.

She’d change college over to online course work and work at continuing to move up in her company [very, very doable], while working on a business degree of the sorts.

So, what does that mean with me? We’re dedicated daters [?], and for me that means that I’m not going to let the born country kid roam into the metropolis alone. So, with the Shock being in Kansas City, half of my Subway jobs are in the city, and…it’s the city; this has quickly become a dream.

Point being, even though it has been a couple days working on this brief post; looks like we’re coming to the City of Fountains in the future.


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