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Mobile Minutes: Suit


A dear college colleague of mine is getting married on June 15th in St. Louis. This man, to his credit, not only was in my wedding, but was one of few to walk me through the entire divorce process. Realistically, he never gave up on me.

Well, I’m preparing for this wedding, and it’ll be a blur (Kansas City Shock plays that night in Kansas City), and just now it dawned on me:

I need a new suit. I havebt worn an actually suit since I clocked in at 275 pounds in February of 2011. It’s been a while. So…it looks like suit shopping for me (I’m thinking black this time).

Feel free to drop pointers on this new quest.

-D-


Mobile Minutes: Better Block


I had the most fascinating day today.

…if you’ve ever in my life time have made a comment about me and the involvement of politics please save your ‘I told you so’ for later…

This morning my girlfriend, Dur, and myself found ourselves deep in Kansas City, Missouri at our favorite location on an early Wednesday morning; 1 Million Cups. This is my first day going out in the world since being sick and we made it one wild day. After an hour there, and spending some time talking to some business friends of ours we split to Blanc burger to enjoy some quality food from Kansas City.

Afterwards [and some coffee later] Dur was dropped off for work, and my girlfriend and I went to an event in our city that we were curious about: Better Block.

The concept of Better Block is unique:

Take an area of a downtown area [like a city block] and spruce it up; clean up some downtown storefronts and invite local businesses to ‘rent out’ the area for day and practically throw a festival. The final product is to show citizens what a rebuilt, lively downtown can look like. Given the city I live in is older than Kansas City; it could be royally sweet if cleaned up correctly. My girlfriend and I got a tour of some of the buildings [none of which I had ever been in] and the creativity within this city on the architectural side is breath taking.

Prior to this, we had, had a meeting in the regional development office for a few hours and taking the knowledge from the Kansas City Shock; myself and my significant other introduced ideas of social media influence, soccer concepts for the festival, and even the introduction of some of the start up businesses we work with in Kansas City.

We caught the ear of the right person.

Walking to the buildings from the meeting I was able to walk with the director for the regional development office. We spent some time going over my past, the city, and then we entered into politics; both of us being political science students in college. By the time we had entered the first building my questions had been answered, my foot was in the door, and this much had become evident:

I’m entering the world of politics.

I’m on the planning board for Better Block, working with the media director, and am also going to start plugging this group into our connections within the Kansas City area. Imagine if the ideas of innovation and development in Kansas City spread to our neck of the woods, it’d be continued development for the entire region. Needless to say, my head is busting with ideas, concepts, and the overall irony of how my life has played out.

Those closest to me, reading this, combined with the events of the Kansas City Shock are sitting back knowing what all of this is:

The first step.

-D-


O: International Tools


Incredible.

Simply incredible.

In recent days, especially for a few weeks now; I’ve just marveled at where this life has wound up, and where it is going, and fascinatingly enough; who’s in control.

I’ve had some people, not many, but some ask the simple question of why I’m so invested into the Kansas City Shock. Why make it work? Why lose sleep? What’s so unique about it?

Simply put; it’s more then a job or a business; it’s a ministry.

I think this weeks earlier example proves a very valid point, but to really understand the clarity of the message, we must draw back to the year 2007.

During the winter of this year I had been dumped [via cellphone ironically] for the first time ever, and I was spending time with my parents; trying to figure out life [tragic, I know]. In the process we had some family emergencies, injuries, sickness, and even death; it was a busy month of December.

Leading up to this moment I had chosen to go to college in the Ozarks to pursue a degree in Intercultural Studies; why? Because God told me to a be in the ministry. Looking back, I don’t doubt that, but the process of going about it; well, I had tunnel vision. Eventually, a family member, more through just bitterness then anything else ended up screaming at me in the end of 2007 some words that stitched some severe scars into my heart:

God called you to be a missionary? Wow, you sure did let Him down, along with this family!

I’m so far past the point of anger with the individual, this many years down the road that it doesn’t even register with me. However, those words did. I dropped out of the degree department, left the theology section of the university I was at, and refused to go ‘that route’; not to mention I had lacked several friends. All of the friends I had developed in those short two years of college revolved around the same theme: athletics.

Needless to say, this is where the adventure truly began with athletics, my life, coaching, soccer, etc…I just poured myself into it because in some ways, it’s all I knew.

God called you to be a missionary? Wow, you sure did Him down, along with this family!

Through a nasty divorce, being homeless, broke, and broken these words I think I could picture coming out of the mouths of many. Here was the good church boy, with a great future ahead, “full of potential” and to some, I threw it all away. Others just saw me as a mere statistic of a said and sound truth of American marriages, and many just forgot I even existed.

It was about time…

The cool thing about being a Christian is often when you are forgotten by the world, that is where God is known and is evident the most.

I share that painful, drawn out story from 2007, along with the potent single line that just doomed me that winter night; to share this remarkable story.

Earlier this week I was running over some search engine inquiries for the Kansas City Shock, along with that I was moving through some e-mails that I needed to get caught up on. Maybe to no ones surprise we have started to get international inquiries about the Kansas City Shock and the potential for international players to call Kansas City home for a few months out of the year.

Completely caught me off guard, but naturally; I’d be a fool to ignore it. So, we took some time and planned out how to deal with international applications and international inquiries as well. Don’t forget, my soccer blog started on a server based in the United Kingdom, not the United States. To be part of soccer, one has to be able to be one person not of their own country, but one person of their world.

That’s when I I saw a e-mail that I had failed to reply to, a man talking about getting together via LinkedIn, and his new coaching application for phones. I didn’t think much of it, sent a quick ‘thank you’ message, and told him I was nervous and excited for 2013. Not even an hour later I received another message from him with this inside the message:

Your personal story speaks for itself…your faith and unyielding spirit stands as an example for all young men and women. The Shock will succeed. I will not wish you best of luck…we mistake the gifts wrought by heeding his work for luck…I humbly ascribe that he will help those that help others see his glory.

This man was based out of the United Kingdom, or at least the primary amount of his business was.

It’s also about the same time a mother of a professional player in Australia contacted our office, inquiring on getting a film of their daughter to us.

It was the lady from Delaware.

It was the club from England.

The player from Macedonia.

It was the assistant coach growing up in the same community deep into Mexico that I also witnessed as a growing adult; digging water wells and loving on some of the most amazing people I’ve ever met.

Finally, it was put into full picture on a few days ago when I placed “Kansas City Shock” into the search box of Google. As noted, Weber Creative Arts just went over and above for the tryout flyer dubbed “#whiteout12“; what really allowed us to see the reach was when I found the flyer on a website that Google was having to translate.

We’re reaching people that would have never been imagined as ‘reachable’.

Sound familiar?

All of this boils up to this point: Kansas City Shock isn’t just a movement, a passion, or a business idea; it’s so much more, it’s my responsibility, my calling, and His dream.

Don’t believe me?

Ask the kid sitting in the parking lot of a college campus in 2003 looking for answers on why his heart was set to explore the world [the same college I would graduate from six years later]. He’ll tell you, still in his stubborn innocents of teenage years…

I cannot deny His calling.

Even through rejection, heartache, and painful words all ran together; understand that when God wants something, He’ll make it happen, no matter what the masses say.

-D-


O: Simulated Reality


There is well known fact that I have a deep, dark passion for a specific video game. This game has plagued me since around 1995 and I’ve grown with it over the years. It’s gone from 2-D, to 3-D, to actually making sense. It’s realistic, but also a simulation; it is…

…SimCity.

Literally, from the moment that Windows 3.1 was introduced into my life in elementary school, I’ve had a strong fixation on this game. There’s no point, there’s no last level, there’s no orc’s; the concept is clear: build.

It’s a developers utopia. From the original, limited, but nostalgic Simcity to my personal favorite; Simcity 4 [in which you could create and program your own buildings]. It was a nerds paradise; a paradise that I didn’t end…ever.

To this day, on my trusty, old laptop; Simcity 4 is still loaded. Why? There isn’t much else more relaxing then looking at something created and modifying, adjusting, increasing, decreasing, and just relaxing as you escape from your world into another.

Or was there something more?

From what you’ve read above, it’s been a geek-fest of a males take on a video game. However, the concept behind it really stuck with me over the years. It wasn’t about the tornado, UFO, or some other random disaster [including Car-Zilla?]; it was about going behind and above and building the impossible.

Yes, I even used SC4 as a failed diagram about zoning regulations in my philosophy of politics course in college. The belief behind development just amazed me. I went ahead, in school, and pushed the envelop on State and Local Government, I followed Department’s of Transportation, my wallpaper as a child? State maps from around the United States. Going on vacation wasn’t about the destination, it was about traveling from A to B and where and how we’d travel [I'm already freaking about driving to Indianapolis in January]. I thoroughly enjoy the Shock because I’m getting develop something out of nothing in a place that I’ve watched grow through the years; Kansas City.

However, it turns out that Simcity, Shock, teaching degrees in social sciences; emphasizing geography, and others were it for me.

Through my rather random Twitter feed; I follow groups like the international airport just south of where I live, or the state’s DOT, I talk to the social media specialist of MODOT almost daily [even when I don't get lost]. I took what I loved in a digital world and placed it into reality. It’s evident with Subway, what do I do? Develop. I chart out growth patterns in neighborhoods and towns, I keep up to date with transportation adjustments, and I’m always looking for the next ‘hot spot’, bu  I never considered an actual public figure position that involved development until about a week ago. Right before my girlfriend started to learn about her opportunity to relocate to Kansas City, I was inquired by the social media lead at the chamber of commerce of the city I currently reside in. Inquiring on if I’d apply to become a member of the city’s Chamber of Commerce.

…yes…read that again…

I’m still sitting here, haven’t replied back to the thought, but naturally in this mind; the concepts are endless. I mean, check out this one idea I’ve had in my head:

In the current city I’m residing in the downtown looks…well, awful. Old buildings, no development, just a lack-luster attempt at survival; let alone growth. Watching the downtown of Kansas City become what it has over the years versus what I have here has been a challenge. So, I’m taking what little I know, what I constantly think I know, and I’ve created a way to bring some new, fresh life into this dull, old city.

Downtown, near a major interchange of two highways stands an abandoned, privately owned rail yard. The sidewalks are destroyed by weeds, half the fences have been knocked down/rusted apart, and there isn’t life anywhere around. Again, the rail yard isn’t used; it’s been abandoned for years; I remember when it went vacant.

So why not change that? This city has several running/biking trails throughout the city, and their growing [slowly, but surely]. However, there is no trail head in the city. Due to this, and vast acreage of the rail yard; the city can turn around and knock the yard as ‘blighted’ and take the action of eminent domain and take the yard. Additionally, through an actual useful TIF, since this area is specifically what TIF’s were designed for in the first place. Not to be used painfully such as it was in the Kelo vs New London case [think I didn't listen in class?].

With a TIF in place, we can start a two-fold plan for redevelopment in the area:

  • First, this mass amount of space can become a park/trail head for all the massive trails that stretch for several miles throughout the city. This would include a plan for a potential riverfront trail to run directly off of this park area, north into the softball/baseball complex/casino several miles to the north [the city sits directly on the Missouri River].
  • Secondly, in order to bring about actual growth and not just to spruce up the area; a calculated, commercial development would also be cornerstones within this park area. Businesses such as an Apple Store and Trader Joe’s, two businesses envied by the upcoming business minded generations of the area, would snap the city out of the fast food controlled, factory foregone past. Additionally, not only will the properly value continue to increase in the area [trust me, it can't get any lower, minus nuclear waste being spilled], but it will begin a decent to the north and take a two-three block wide area and build up new commercial entities. Being able to actually rebuild a downtown means that cornerstone businesses could take bake a blighted downtown area.
  • Finally, we take out the notes that Johnson and Wyandotte Counties in Kansas have learned in the last decade; when done calmly and carefully, tax breaks for businesses, regardless the condition of the land, can bring about additional interest to the region. The fact that this downtown area does sit on an interstate with ease of access to Omaha, Nebraska and Kansas City, Mo/Ks is also a lucrative pull for the sake of transportation.

All of this is so, so theoretical that it really isn’t funny, and with the government of this city being run still by the “good boys gun club”, it is doubtful that progress would take place immediately.

However, who knows what the next week, month, or year holds?

Regardless, I find it amazing that video games and a strange, geeky childhood passion can stay alive so long to the point to where I’m looking at actual movement inside the political machine.

1.4 years since my life got turned upside down…

…I think we’ll count this as progress.

-D-


O: Head Shot


I’m getting ready to release a photo on you; I hope you’re ready.

This photo was taken last week in the heart of Kansas City. Interestingly enough the outfit I’m in was for work, but it doubled well for the photo session. This photographer has their own, newly launched business in Kansas City; Weber Creative Arts [this is the group that went to college with myself and K8]. They were kind enough to set down the staff from the Kansas City Shock and get their ‘head shots’ for the development of our website.

I thought it would be wise to get a photo of us with our team colors [hence the ball], and with Kansas City in the background. It was hot, and part of our crew was late, and part of them were out of town, but we made due.

I received these photos a few days ago, basically proofs for me to ‘OK’ before their final edit. I won’t go into details about all the photos, because they weren’t of me, they were others in our crew. However, I think this photo is worth displaying. As much as I would like to use it as a ‘I told you so’, I think realistically it’d be wiser for me to just use it as an illustration and try to put myself and my nasty ego aside and just make the continual comment of what God can do.

Tonight at MoVal, we were discussing the idea of what would take place if we were to put ourselves aside and try to think about what god could do with us if we just listened to Him. I’ll confess that there were a few times along the way I found myself chuckling. Not to the presentation or the discussion, but just to idea and belief of what God can do. Many have said that your natural passion and God’s inherent design frequently go hand in hand. In other words; He gives us a passion to do something that we love, hoping that we can use it to glorify Him.

I would hope by now that anyone who has read these posts over the past year and some odd months have been able to notice the creation and unbelievable moments that have consisted with the Kansas City Shock. From selling tickets to interviews to logos, tournaments, and even announcing a coach this week. If there is one thing that I will not back down from, I refuse to back down from, is the concept that God’s design and grace allowed all of this to take place, and continues to make it take place. Our company has turned heads in ways unimaginable, and I love it because it puts me in a position to where I’m required, forced; I have to give credit to God for the sake of any of this existing.

With all of that said, it’s an honor to present to you this photo; the ‘head shot’ of the CEO for the Kansas City Shock:

“Dare to be different. Shock the world.”

-D-


Mobile Minutes: Weber Creative Arts


Simply put:

I am amazed at what I found trolling through cyberspace.

This is a true story. While I was in college, K8 and I were good friends, and K8 ran track at the university. One of her friends was Jenny. Jenny and I knew each other through school and athletics, and that was about it. I lost track of Jenny far before I lost track of K8. However, as the Kansas City Shock started to take place, K8 kept talking about a new start up business in Kansas City. Put in motion from Jenny and her husband. We met up, talked shop, just caught up. This was months ago. With the continual success of the Shock, we’ll take publicity just about anywhere we can find it. That’s when K8 and Jenny came up with the idea that we could be the first program to reap the benefits of this new business. Jenny got to work and actually created the crest for the program, the digital flyers for the tournament, and has just been going ‘sandbox mode’ on the company.

It was a few weeks ago that I noticed an adjustment. A new company kept following us and putting up photos and other random ideas. Jenny and her husband had officially launched their own business: Weber Creative Arts. Of course the Shock started promoting them everywhere we could; Twitter, Facebook, word of mouth, even on Google+ now. It’s been a whirlwind of God’s grace. Truly.

Tonight, while just relaxing for a spell; I was browsing Facebook like a good young adult, and that’s when I saw it. Weber Creative had launched a new digital poster; highlighting the Kansas City Shock.

As you can note below, there is no reason not to be shocked. I am very, very fortunate, and very blessed at how God makes so many things come full circle. Be sure and hit up Weber Creative on Facebook, Twitter, and Google+!

-D-


O: Urban Comfort


I was that kid.

You know, that one. I wore standard jeans a t-shirt with some old basketball shoes to class in high school, every, single, day. It never changed. As a Senior I tried to spice it up with a  button up shirt, unbuttoned, with some good ‘Jesus’ shirt underneath [for the record: to those who sport the shirt that reads "I broke a rule. I prayed in school." You didn't break a rule, it isn't unconstitutional, and it isn't illegal. For the love of all things good and holy, please stop wearing that shirt].

It basically amounted to this, I wasn’t trendy, and I wasn’t chic. More and more over it ended with this; I was a hick.

Understand that it wasn’t directed towards four wheel drive, muddy trucks, and country music…ugh…The concept was merely the belief and idea that I am indeed from a rural background, and have spent most of my life among trucks, corn, and cows. I didn’t wear w[st]ranglers to class, and I wasn’t part of the FFA. I didn’t ride dirt bikes, ATV’s, or horses; I walked. I’m not a giant fan of deer hunting, but I partake in it for the sake of hating to pay prices for beef. It’s where I grew up, but it wasn’t necessarily who I was.

When I entered college I dated a young woman from South County St. Louis [in reference to the geographical area divided up of one, St. Louis county]. She was very sweet, and for my first girlfriend; I did pretty well. However, as we were together one thing continued to change. My wardrobe. She understood, the best she could, that I was from the sticks. On the same token though, I had to visit her frequently; meaning trips along I-70 and I-44 into St. Louis. A terrifying experience for anyone that has dared the drive from either side. She would take me shopping, to Cardinal’s games, outdoor theaters, and a Italian themed demographic neighborhood referred to as “The Hill”. As time progressed, as do my wardrobe [this is where I discovered my uncanny taste towards Izod Polo's], I started to realize the big city wasn’t that bad. Yes, to this day I am still not a fan of St. Louis itself, but an urban concept isn’t unreal.

Between those years and now I’ve subjected to my hometown [1,538], my college town [9,000], the town I coached in [600], and the town I was going to teach in [200]. As you can see, the numbers aren’t exactly in the favor of growth. That’s when I took my current job with Subway. These loons that I work for enjoyed the notion that I was from a small town, so I better understand business planning for rural development. However, it also meant that I would need to adapt because whether I wanted to or not, they were sending me into our stores in the metroplex known as “Kansas City: So good one state can’t handle it”.

As the months have gone by, as have the lattes, I’ve discovered much about Kansas City. From the wonderful spa location in Lee’s Summit, Missouri on the southeast side of the area, to the insanity that traffic between 291, 152, and I-35 in Liberty, Missouri across to The Legends and Livestrong Sporting Park [where I'll be tonight], south to the richest county in the United States; Johnson County, Kansas; to finally the towers, coffee, suits and ties that make up the heart of downtown Kansas City. I’ve seen a gun flashed at me, hit us for bus fare, I’ve talked to businessmen, and have even found myself in the regional headquarters of Google. The Kansas City Shock is based in the city, and due to this I’m all things soccer all the time the city of fountains [most fountains in a city in the world minus Venice, Italy; plus the largest privately owner continues fountain in the world]. Last evening my girlfriend and I had our weekly date night. It consisted of the standard; Starbucks, and an introduction for her: Oklahoma Joe’s BBQ. It is no secret that Kansas City, as a cow town, prides itself on its BBQ and OK Joe’s is one of the best of the best. I’ve witnessed it a handful of times, and my girlfriend, who is from St. Joseph to the north hadn’t been there before. Of course she loved it [you can't turn away good BBQ].

The night was spent in Kansas City. In Johnson County, far removed from our lives where we currently exist. We took our time laughing and carrying on while working on fries, ‘The Z-Man”, and some heavenly sauce. Afterwards we washed it down with Americano’s [best I've had from a Starbucks], and whatever she drinks [she works there, so her drink is quite special], and just sat outside for what felt like hours just talking about everything imaginable.

We went over my ex-wife, the grudges I have, the reminder from my girlfriend that I’ve got to eventually forgive [emphasis on eventually]. We hit hard topics, like reasons my marriage failed, and what mistakes I made and what I learned from it. We talked growth spiritually, the moves taking place in MoVal for her, and just what our future could be. I spoke on my distaste of white picket fences, two story homes, and 2.3 kids. Dreamed of salaries, raises, IRS, and other financial entertainment. We were a couple. A young couple just dreaming about the future.

While the Starbucks along 119th and I-35 started to close, we hopped in the car and started to drive back through the metro area to get to the other rural side of things [to the north]. She spoke while I turned onto the ramp, “You know, we should just stay the night in Kansas City. Nice hotel, and just enjoy the comforts of the city.”

It was at that point, while enjoying the evening, looking towards the future, and understanding where we were, that I, the kid who once were jeans, t-shirts, and basketball shoes, in my khaki’s, dress shoes, and Real Madrid jersey simply stated that the more and more we’re living the more and more we’re quickly falling in love with this city. We’re not urban yuppies, but similar to the Kansas City Shock, and all other comfortable positions I’ve locked myself into, Kansas City each day feels a little more like home.

-D-

P.S. I would have photos from last night to share, but due to the ‘no-technology’ rule that we’ve both implemented on ourselves, photos don’t take place.


Mobile Minutes: Modern Barbers


I need a haircut. It is that time once again. I tried to form a new “usual” up north, but last night their “walk-in’s welcome” failed miserably when no one was there.
I have court today, and with my shirt and tie, I’d like to look the role. So, I left early today with Modern Barbers on my mind.
This is the barber shop in the town I went to college in. They are the classic, small town, small talk barber shop. They were the first place I had my hair cut when I wasn’t home. That was in 2005, seven years later Jared still remembers how I like my cut.
It is no secret that when I moved back home, I would travel to get my hair chopped. I thought I would grow out of it, but I kept finding myself in the chair.
Today was special. Jared told me that his father, the founder of the place, died in June. His father cut my hair in 2005 and introduced me to the town. I later found out that he grew up ten miles from my hometown. Small world. I told Jared my story, the divorce, Subway, and of course the Kansas City Shock.
That’s the moment he told me about his organization, Abundance Ministries, that ships crates of goods to country’s in Central America.
Our final discussion before we parted ways?
If I knew anyone interested in donating soccer balls to Central America…
It’s always amazing to see God remind you to stay on the path you’re on.
…not to mention my hair looks much better for only $10…

-D-


Mobile Minutes: Touring


Yep, I really did just do it. I just sent a message to my old college, explaining a story [this story] that I doubt they’ll believe, and offering myself as a speaker for this upcoming school year.

..yeah…I really did just do that…

..wow…


Mobile Minutes: SBU


You know what I want to do?

I want to write to the college I went to, and speak at one of their chapel sessions; sharing this incredible story.

-D-


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